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Fundamental techniques

Implementing Dale Carnegie!

Posted by Dinesh Chandar On 3:32 PM
Ok, Now that I have studied and reviewed and blogged the whole book, how about implementing it?

When someone told me MBA is a philosophy. I laughed. Now, I understand! This is the stuff that they should have taught us in school! Not some meaningless technicalities!

The first question that came to my mind was.. Am I manipulating people here somehow? Is all this a bit selfish? Well, Imagine a woman who is asking you $500. Would you give her? Now if that woman was your mother or sister? See the point. I dont think we get the definition of selfishness right. Selfishness is not doing things for yourself. Selfishness is doing things ONLY for yourself.

As the Author repeatedly emphasizes, showing real concern and real care matters a lot. You might get a bit with fake praise (flattery) and fake concern, but anything fake just like fake currency eventually gets caught and is jailed! Show real care. That doesnot mean you need to worry about the other person's financial problems all night. It means, when you talk with him, you spend time for him to think about the situation from his point of view and not be selfish. All it takes is an extra minute! (And following up on what you promise to him)

For me, personally the biggest problem has been "Caring for other people". I am so emotionaly distant usually, that it is tough for me. I still get a creepy feeling that I am manipulating them when i do some of this. I guess, I just have to keep practicing and not give up.

I never had a problem with criticism. I almost never criticize, and when i do, i honey coat it. My problem was else where. Praising people! appreciating them and showing concern for them! Well, I have started of with praising people immediately whenever they did something efficient/fast/better. Yes, I still have to fight with my own reservations to do it. I never praised people before, much less care for them! I used to openly proclaim that I dont give a damn! Now all that is gotta change. (I hope blogging my experiences will help me achieve this. Accountability to the unseen force and all that ;) )

And some of the other stuff the book mentions reminds me of spirituality. It comes down to knowing yourself. Once you know what you are, you are no more on a shaky ground. You have more confidence. After all only you can judge yourself on what you CAN do and not what you DID. Once we are sure of ourselves, we can easily project that to the world. Not get jumpy and not react to every thing impulsively.

And I must remind myself to read my posts atleast once a month, so I dont wander off course!

It is a long way from here! The hardest journeys are the best! arent they!

1 Response to "Implementing Dale Carnegie!"

  1. G3 Said,

    //And I must remind myself to read my posts atleast once a month//

    Nee imbuttu nallavana ;)

     

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